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Here’s How to Handle Rejection | Think Positive

March 5, 2022

Being rejected is one of the most painful feelings in the world. But, instead of moping around, here’s how to handle rejection.

As someone whose been rejected plenty of times, the feeling sucks. However, life is not an easy race to the finish line. Things will not always go as planned, and it’ll feel like the end of the world, but I promise you— it’s not. To improve our lives, we must be able to handle rejection. No matter what industry you’re in or who you want to be with, having tough skin is mandatory. And this doesn’t mean not showing how you feel, such as disappointment when you don’t secure a job position you longed for or being sad because someone you wanted doesn’t want you. It’s about using that rejection to boost your confidence, grab yourself by the bootstrap, and look for something better. So, let’s get into these ways to look at the bright side of rejection

Here’s How to handle rejection

You possibly dodged a bullet.

Sometimes we don’t get what we want because it’s not what we need. The job position, company environment, or person you wanted could result in toxic energy. Even if that’s not the case, something wasn’t right in that situation, and God/the universe pushed you away from it.

There’s something bigger and better coming.

You probably didn’t get the position and/or the lover because you deserve better. You most likely limited yourself to a box, and rejection was the only way for you to comprehend your worth. There’s a saying that says: ‘A thousand No’s is just a start to the right Yes.’ One day you’ll get a position that’s worth more. One day you’ll get someone that worships the ground you walk on. Something bigger and better is coming.

Honestly, it’s their lost.

Whether the rejection was in the form of a call or email, look at how great you are… it’s their loss. You have every right to feel like the best person in the world. If the job or person you wanted couldn’t see how wonderful you are, let it go. Learn and move past it. There’s a company or a significant other that’ll love and appreciate you.

When you think of ways to handle rejection, remember that this is just a bump in the road. A smooth street is coming!

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So, you failed? Here’s How To Recharge

January 29, 2022

So, you failed. But, guess what? There’s only one way to go once you hit the bottom, and that’s to the top!

We need to get into the habit of turning failure into knowledge. We can not win every game, but we’re winning in life if we try and learn from our mistakes. This is easier said than done, and of course, you’re going to feel some way if you take a loss. However, it’s the way you react to the loss that dictates whether you’re going to bounce back or let it control you. If you consistently blame others for not winning, you have a long route ahead of you.

Take accountability for your failure.

When you take a loss, always take accountability. This is your life, and you’re the main character. Everyone else has supporting roles or are extras. You’re the only person with the power to allow yourself to take chances. When you take a chance, you’re making yourself vulnerable to losing. Do not lash out and make a social media post whenever that happens.

Don’t blame your family and friends for not helping you, even if it’s true. Just take accountability, turn it into a lesson and prepare for your win with the knowledge you just gained. Sometimes we don’t give things our all. Life can be wild, and we tend to handle a plethora of things at once with no structure. Sometimes we do everything we can, and we still lose. This is the universe telling you that it’s not your time, or this is not the route for you. Again, take accountability and turn it into a lesson. Most importantly, cut yourself some slack.

Always make your past self jealous.

You allowed yourself to take a chance, and you deserve to be proud of that no matter the outcome. Your determination to succeed proves that you’ve grown and are a better person than your past self. You lost, so what! At least you put effort into improving and took on the challenge. Compare your mindset now to how it was five years ago. Your past self wishes they had the confidence you have now.

So, you failed? Okay. Victory feels so much better when you’ve bounced back from failure.

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These 4 Things Can Prevent Your Growth

December 17, 2021

As the new year approaches, the last thing we need is growth prevention. So let’s get into how these 4 things can prevent your growth.

Growth can be stimulating— especially when you’re having a hard time figuring out what’s taking the process so long. For one, we can’t rush it. Growth is something that transpires when you permit yourself to change. It’s when your mind becomes more assorted and willing to step out of your comfort zone. Honestly, the process is dissimilar for everyone. For some of us, we can easily adapt to this new form of thinking which allows growth to overtake our lives. And for others, it’s not a walk in the park.

Either way, there are 4 things that can prevent your growth— whether you can easily adapt to changes or not. Let’s Talk!

These 4 Things Can Prevent Your Growth

Low Self-Esteem

If you’ve never experienced low self-esteem, you’re an icon—seriously. It’s when someone lacks confidence about themselves and what they can achieve. They often think of themselves as failures before they even begin. Low self-esteem is one of the main problems that prevents growth— because in their mind, they already loss.

Environment

Yes, your environment can prevent growth. Sometimes we get too attached to the areas we grew up around and become scared of the thought of leaving. It is possible to grow in the same environment, but not much. We need to experience new surroundings and people from different cultures. We need to experience the world. It’s much bigger than the neighborhood or city you’re used to.

Overly Procrastination

It’s no secret that everyone procrastinates. Even the most successful people talk about how there are times when they ‘put off’ doing something until the last minute. However, overly procrastination can prevent growth. What is overly procrastination? It’s when your motivation is erased by consistently waiting until the last minute to do something. You eventually choose to not finish the project— for example— at all. And we all know, if you don’t finish what you start, you’ll still be in the same position.

Negative Nancy’s (Naysayers)

The people you choose to be around can affect your growth. If you surround yourself with unsupportive people, that energy affects you mentally. You start to second guess yourself and your talent, which can create low self-esteem. If people are always negative around you, distance yourself. Nothing positive comes from that negative energy.

You know you have what it takes to take the world by storm. Grow and allow yourself to stay away from those 4 things. You got this.

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Protect Your Energy: Life 101

October 18, 2021

Let’s learn ways to protect your energy in this crazy world.

One of my favorite topics to write about is protecting your energy. I’ve witnessed some crazy things in my life, and so far, I can comprehend how imperative it is to put a protective barrier around your energy.

Let’s be honest.

As much as we wish the world were a better place, we have to admit that people often push out negative agendas. They always find something hateful to share or say, and they never see anything wrong with their actions. These are the type of individuals that we should plan on staying far away.

These people find joy in seeing others sad and hurt, so the best way to deal with it is to keep your distance.

But, what if we have to be around these people? Let’s get started! That’s when you use these three different ways to protect your energy.

3 Ways To Protect Your Energy

Try to avoid conflict

I know, I know. Sometimes conflict comes around and we have to defend ourselves. However, please try to avoid it as much as possible. It’s one of the quickest ways to take in bad energy. As I said, there are people who will purposely target you and try to bring you down. Most of the time walking away or agreeing to disagree works. Don’t let them win!

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Choose positivity, always

Of course, this is better said than done. We all have bad days even when we try to think positive. It’s a part of life. However, as long as you’re choosing to think positive thoughts, you’re fighting against the negative energy in this world. Also, just because you have a bad day doesn’t mean you’re a negative person. Don’t worry, we all have those moments, even the most positive people in the world do.

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Clear your mind with meditation

When I feel overwhelmed by negative energy, I take a moment to breathe. I usually use the mone minute breathe concentration on my apple watch to help calm my nerves. This is a part of meditation, and there are many other ways you can clear your mind and body of toxic thoughts. Although I still have a lot to learn about meditation, this method works for me.

Now go out there and protect your peace!

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The Consequences of Doubting Yourself

August 4, 2021

There’s always consequences of doubting yourself.

When we doubt ourselves, we limit our chances of winning.
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We train our minds into thinking there’s things we can’t do… without even trying. This is the beauty of doubt except there’s no real beauty. It’s true, we can’t be great at everything, but as long as you try, you’re winning. Doubting yourself can come from a plethora of things. It can stem from verbal abuse, low self esteem or from being coy. Sometimes we can be our own worst enemies.

The consequences of doubting yourself can have both short and long term effects. Many of us do this so often, without even noticing, that we’ve trained our minds to hold off on doing things we’ve always wanted to do. Because, ‘I don’t think I can do it.’ Below are 3 consequences of doubting yourself:

MISSED OPPORTUNITIES

Missing opportunities because you didn’t have access to them is always discouraging. However, when you miss out on them because you doubted yourself, that’s a different type of hurt. You’ll always wonder about what would’ve happened if you believed in yourself. This can be a long term consequence of doubting yourself, because you’re allowing yourself to miss out on things you’ve worked hard to have a chance of getting.

LIMITS ON IMPROVING

In order to improve, personal or career wise, you have to allow yourself to have that time. When you doubt yourself, you’re putting a strain on your personal growth. If you can’t believe that you can do whatever you put your mind to, you’re not going to believe that you can improve. This is also a long term consequence that’ll create a negative impact on your life.

NEGATIVE ENERGY

If there’s one thing every human being can agree on, it’s that we don’t want to be the negative energy in our lives as well as anyone else. When you doubt yourself, you’re bringing negative energy into your life and eventually this expands into the lives of people you’re around. You’ll start to be a ‘Negative Nancy’ and not even notice it. It’ll become the norm for how you act which will lead to some people cutting you off to protect their own energy.

Always remember, ‘I ~~don’t~~ think I can’…’I can,I will, I did.”

Lessons Learned: Don’t Allow Greed To Take Over What You Love

January 22, 2021

Sometimes, life will humble you faster than you can blink.

We learn so much as we grow and explore life.

We tend to look for things that make us better human beings, but we don’t like to take into consideration that we could use self evaluations often.

I know, we don’t like to hear it.

Yet, many people, including myself, need to use the advice we give others.

I’ve always told others not to allow greed to take over what they love to do.

What do I mean by that?

I mean, never let the thought of being bigger and making more money overshadow your love for your dream, to be exact.

I need to take my own advice.

I’m currently a Freelance Journalist, just one of the many aspects of media that I’m apart of. I absolutely love to write, film, and edit my own content.

I never wanted to be in the media industry to become a billionaire and own my own continent, or something outrageous.

But, lately I’ve found myself worrying more about the perks of being known in the media industry than my actual love for it.

This has to stop, like ASAP.

I never want greed to take over what I love, because then it becomes a chore and we never love chores.

It’s the main reasons why I haven’t been writing my weekly journals and blogging like I was before.

I’m taking my own advice and getting back into my zone!

I’m taking back what I love and I’m doing it because it brings me happiness.

Do you know anyone that chose greed over what they loved? Why do you think this is common?