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Being lonely a few hours out of the day doesn’t sound too bad. To be honest, after dealing with the many different actions of humans for majority of the day, it sounds like a breathe of fresh air.

The word lonely has a bad reputation. Society made it the face of depression and basically if you’re ever lonely, you should hurry up and find someone to talk to.

However, this might sound crazy, but we need to be lonely for a few hours a day.

Perhaps I should say “alone” since many people can create the argument between the difference of the two.

Any who, here’s a few reasons why we need that alone time.

• We need time to ourselves.

• It allows us to sit and relax, maybe even use our Apple watches to “breathe”.

• It’s one of the few times out of the day that’s not stressful.

• If you don’t feel like talking, you don’t have to.

• It helps with becoming more in touch with yourself. You can notice more of who you are when you’re not distracted by life. Even if it’s for a few hours. We learn something new everyday.

• YOU CAN BE YOURSELF. You can eat how you want. Nothing has to be perfect when you’re alone. (Although you should always be yourself)

• You’re getting away from life, for a bit.

These reasons are more than enough to convince people why they should take time for themselves EVERY DAY. We deal with so much in life, it’s overwhelming.

Those small moments/ hours of calm can motivate you to keep going. Your mind & body needs rest every day.

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One thing I’ve learned as I continue to grow as an individual, is to start saying no. I used to be one of those people who always said yes when people needed my help, until I noticed that people were taking advantage of my niceness.

Saying no was not easy for me to do at first. I never wanted people to be mad at me, I didn’t want them to think I was mean or didn’t want to help them, and I didn’t want to lose friends/bonds. But, as I got older it became easier.

The first time I said “NO” was actually me testing out how situations would go once I started using it. That situation went completely left. All of a sudden I was a fake friend who didn’t want to help the person and my bond with that person broke.

Do I regret saying no? No.

I know I’m a good person and I help as many people as I can. But, I also know when I’m being used. We all have those people who only come around when they need something. It’s okay to help them but start saying no when you don’t want to.

Your real family and friends will understand. The fake ones will start to distance themselves when they can’t use you anymore. You don’t need that negative energy in your life anyways.

So, start saying no.

If you liked this post, you’ll love The Lonely Hour: Reasons Why You Need To Be Alone For A Few Hours Everyday.